You supported him. You paid for things. You were there through every job hunt, every failed plan, every excuse. And he said, “Just give me time. When I get on my feet, I’ll marry you.”
That was years and years (and years!) ago.
Here’s the truth: You were acting like a partner, but he was treating you like a placeholder.
Let’s not romanticize one-sided loyalty. There’s a big difference between being supportive and being used. If you’ve invested your time, money, and energy into a man who can’t even give you a date—not even a rough one—for when he’ll propose, it’s time to stop asking what more you can give and start asking why he hasn’t given anything back.
You are not a stepping stone. You are not a scholarship. You are not a personal assistant for his life goals.
Marriage is not some magical prize you earn by being endlessly patient. It’s a mutual decision. If he sees it as something to delay forever—ask yourself why.
Because deep down, you already know: If someone wants to be with you forever, they won’t risk losing you. They’ll do something about it. If he’s not doing anything, he’s either not ready or not serious. Either way, you deserve better.
Don’t wait around hoping he’ll change his mind. You’re not here to audition for the role of “wife someday.” You’re here to be loved, now. And respected, now. And chosen—not “once he gets his act together”—but today.
Choose yourself. He’s had more than enough time to choose you, but didn’t.
