After a breakup, you may feel like you’ve lost a part of yourself. It may take a while before you recover. But while you’re wallowing in self-pity, people that care for you are tormented with worry. Snap out of it and start living your life again!
Here are some tips on how to get over a broken heart.
Be Good to Yourself
You know you’ve lost sleep and have not been eating a lot while you were worrying about your break up and your ex’s feelings towards you. So, the first step to being emotionally independent is to be physically fit to tackle all the challenges that will come your way, whether these are related to your job or to your personal life. After a few months, you should be eating better, exercising and taking your vitamins to make up for what you’ve lost in the past.
Doing all these will help you improve your stamina, give you more confidence boost, make you more attractive to the opposite sex, and keep you motivated to go to work. You must have heard of people who got seriously sick after a break up. This isn’t entirely impossible. You could fall into depression and seriously hurt yourself if you do not take steps to prevent your body from breaking down.
The worst thing about dealing with heartbreak is pretending you don’t care. You DO care and you know it. Do not make the mistake of convincing yourself that you’re OK if you’re really not. Allow yourself to grieve and accept the way things are by crying and confiding on someone you trust. You can show the world that you’re already over your ex, but you don’t have to hide the truth from yourself when you’re alone or when you’re with a trusted friend.
If you follow the tips above, you can rebound from breakup. But there is one more thing you have to remember when you’re trying to get over your ex…. It’s this: avoid contacting with your ex. Being friends with your ex is ok, but only when all your emotional wounds have healed. Meeting him or her will just re-open the old issues and will make you do things that are completely senseless (like having sex with him or her again). If you’re tempted to call your ex, stop yourself or let your friends hold your cell phone. If you realize that you’re finding excuses to drop by (like when you have to pick up old clothes and other stuff you left behind), make sure a friend is with you to keep you from lingering around your ex lover.
Meet New People
If playing the field is not your style, you can still mingle with other people to feed your need to socialize. The more people you meet, the more likely you will find someone you can date in the future. For now, however, concentrate on making friends and don’t try to get into a rebound relationship. You may feel like another relationship is crucial for you to feel alive again, but be warned… a rebound relationship will only mess up your efforts to forget all about your ex.
Why? Loving someone else when you’re not fully healed can make you feel desperate and needy. Your neediness will stem from your memory of being left alone and thrown aside. Your self esteem isn’t strong at the moment and you’ll end up suffocating your new lover.