Did You Lose Your “Mojo” to Your Ex?

What is ‘mojo’? Mojo is a simple charm you keep with you at all times to turn bad luck into good fortune.

In the personal development context, it’s that magic you have about you that makes you a success, lands you a job and gets you what you want.

It’s your ‘aura’; the thing that makes you unforgettable. The glint in your eye, or the snap in your every step. It’s that certain something that keeps you confident.

We use this inner charm when we need to get something done, like when we want to impress someone or when we want to drive good fortune into our lives by the power of our mind alone.

It is my belief that everyone is born with this ‘magic’ or ‘blessing’. 

Considering this, it makes me wonder why a person would feel like he has lost this magic when a relationship ends. More than once, I’ve heard someone else say the phrase ‘unlucky in love’ with a dejected sigh.

So… Did You Lose Your “Mojo” to Your Ex?

After a break up, you might feel like you’re just a husk of your former self; and you don’t feel like doing anything productive for a time. You are merely existing… and everyone around you notices your personality changes. For a while, you may be feeling like you’ve lost your mojo to your former relationship.

You feel like saying “My ex took my heart away and there’s nothing left” to anyone who will listen.

I have news for you — you did NOT lose your mojo to anyone.

You just stashed it away somewhere inside your consciousness and refuse to use its power while you’re enjoying your self-pitying behavior. Deep inside, you know you’ll get over this and you’ll be ok again… but you don’t know how to feel ‘normal’ after you’ve put yourself through this hell called self-recrimination.

If you’re in this situation right now, let me share with you my failproof formula for bouncing back to your old self and deftly avoiding the trap of depression:

“Forgive and Forget“

That is…

  • forgive yourself for the crazy things that you did in your desperation to get your ex back
  • forgive yourself for still loving your ex, despite that you’ve told your friends and yourself a hundred times over that you don’t anymore.
  • forgive yourself for wanting to get over your ex despite that you still love him or her.
  • forgive yourself for letting your anger or bitterness consume you…

When you’re done forgiving yourself, you can start forgetting…

  • your anger at your ex for taking you for a ride
  • your disappointment at yourself for being taken for a ride
  • your past mistakes
  • your desire for retaliation or vindication

When you’re done with these steps, your mojo will “come back”. Guaranteed.

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