The The Art of Seduction by Robert Greene is the best book discussing the game of love, what aspects of relationships the efforts should be concentrated on and when to make your move. This has helped me a lot in my advice giving and my own personal relationships. I know it will help you too.

Consider this scenario. A nice, well-meaning guy finally finds the opportunity to talk to the girl of his dreams at a college party. She’s idly standing by the buffet table alone and all he has to do is start a conversation with her. He slowly approaches her and for a second, their eyes meet. Suddenly, the girl’s eyes shift from his to a spot over his shoulder and she waves to her friends. He helplessly watches as she rushes past him to join the others by the pool. He then asks himself over and over, what went wrong?

Many guys are either too shy when around women or too scared to admit that they don’t know how to approach women. To complicate things, the pressure placed on these guys by their peers and society in general forces them to keep their problem to themselves for fear of ridicule. It’s a lot easier to declare that they choose not to get involved with girls, than admit their inability to get and maintain dates. The crippling inhibitions that these guys manifest when dating women will obviously result in an unending string of lousy dates and unreturned phone calls that could make a guy lose faith in himself completely.

Advice from girl pals, older sisters and even moms may not always be comprehensive because of one simple handicap… they’re not guys. As it is with women, there are certain very personal issues that men keep hidden; and these impose a limit to their emotional availability. These are unspoken feelings of being “at a loss” that only another guy will understand.

I recently discovered a dating site that points out the common mistakes that guys make in approaching women, and offers effective, life-changing techniques to reverse these mistakes. The Modern Man addresses the universal dilemma of eternally dateless guys, and those that are forever treated by girls as “best guy friend material”. Within a few minutes of browsing, I was amazed at how insightful the dating tips are. A few more pages later, I discovered why: the people coaching men on how to be the hottest that they can be are guys themselves!

Free audio samples of conversation starters are available and I was smiling the whole time I was listening to these. I kept thinking, “wow, these guys really know how women think huh… interesting…” and then I went on listening and laughing some more.

I could name a half a dozen guys who need to go to this site right now, but I won’t post their names here; I’ll just send these links to them later *smiles*.

So, if you feel that you are one of those who need to learn from the expertise of The Modern Man, then by all means, GO! Visit this site before your sister, your mom and your best girl buddy (who, by the way, never thought of you as a prospect with you being the way you are) shake you vigorously and scream “please get a clue!!!”

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