Reading books on sex and love making can be entertaining and educational, but actually getting to experience the sexuality that is preached there is far more satisfying. Here’s a naughty little post for women who want to experience a bit more than the usual sex.

Don’t go struggling to do cartwheels and contortions. Going through the motions to create a ‘unique’ position is distracting as you have to concentrate long and hard on keeping from toppling over. That’s not fun. Stick to the basics, but with a twist.

Here are the more ‘ordinary’ positions and my take on how you and I can enjoy them more.

1. Missionary

• Wrapping your legs around his waist is ok for the first 15 to 30 minutes, any much longer and you will feel the tired feeling on those legs. Hold your legs by the crook of the knees and transfer the strain to your arms (which aren’t doing much in this particular position, anyway). Holding your legs apart yourself for the duration of this position will let you concentrate on your orgasm.

2. Doggy position

• Deep penetration from behind with a bit of help on your part (playing with your clitoris while your partner is making love to you) will make this position your new favorite. The strain here is on your arms, and maybe it’s difficult to use one to play with yourself. My suggestion: When you use one hand to fondle your clitoris, transfer your weight from the other arm supporting your upper body to your elbows and shoulders.

• Closed doggy. For this, you will need a lot of lubrication (waterbased KY jelly is recommended). Keep your legs closed while he makes love to you from behind. This variation works when your partner is particularly well endowed (in terms of length), and deep penetration via regular dog style is painful more than pleasurable. Your legs and your butt cheeks contribute to the friction, which is a bit different from the usual doggy style.

3. Girl on Top -

• If he is lying on his back, a woman can only use her legs for support. Legs get wobbly after a while and you find that you cannot move up and down after a few minutes as the knees become wobbly. The secret to this is weight distribution. If your legs are short, plant your feet firmly to his side and move up and down as if you’re squatting, equally distributing your weight on your thighs and legs. It’s a bit easier for those with long legs, because they can kneel while doing this, and the knees are included in the weight distribution.

• Girl on top In reverse - This is the easiest variation for me. Ride him with your back facing him. Weight distribution in this position is easier as you can use your arms as leverage (holding his knees).

• Make him sit up or recline - This way you can use his shoulders or neck for support. You still need to distribute your weight equally between your thighs and legs, but now you can hold on to him while you do so.

4. Standing up - For this you will need to recline against a wall for leverage. Plant one foot firmly on the ground, and hold the other up by the crook of the knees using one arm. Your other arm could hold on to his body. The strain on the arm holding one leg up is the main downside of this position, but if your partner does not mind you switching arms to lift one leg every once in a while, this could be your favorite position yet.

These tips are designed to keep the woman (you) comfortable for the duration of the intercourse. Orgasm comes to us only when we feel relaxed and not thinking of something else (like how tired you are). How to drive a man wild in bed? You have to start with how to drive yourself wild in bed.

This post is dedicated to my fiery Scorpio guy friends, reputed to last all night long.