How to Apologize to Your Girlfriend

Communication can improve any relationship. It’s particularly handy during break ups, sex and the times when you have to separate physically for a while.  But the most crucial time to use your communication skills is when you did something wrong.

Keeping the communication lines open is easier said than done. Most of the time, girls misunderstand men, and men cannot find ways to express how they really feel for fear of retribution, nagging or guilt trips. If all these sound familiar, here are some communication tips you can use to express yourself without inducing much drama.

1. Flower Power

If you have to say something that will induce tension, create a sentimental and loving atmosphere before you spill your gut, or put your head on the chopping block. Consult your mom, ask mushy cheesy questions in girls’ forums, or go online shopping for jewelry with your older sister. Ask your girl’s best friend to tell you which candle scent makes your girl go ga-ga. This is a lot of prep, but if your sin borders on “unforgivable”, it’s worth it.

Women can sense that something’s up when a guy acts romantic all of a sudden, but women can’t deny that they’re less likely to blow up if at least 12 red roses and a few scented candles are in front of them when you confess your misdemeanor. Soften the mood — and her heart — with flowers.

2. Mind The Body Language

Saying sorry means acting sorry. If you’re still defensive about the situation even when it’s clearly your fault, it’s better not to apologize for now. There’s no way a woman can believe you’re sorry if you still act like it’s someone else’s fault (hers). Be ok with saying sorry and put a lid on defensive behavior while you’re apologizing. Lower your head, look her in the eye… if you get too emotional, let the tears flow. Screw the guy who said men need to keep the tears in to act strong. Emotionally available men are SEXY. Believe it.

3. Verbalize

You might not realize this, but your voice and how you say your girlfriend’s name are some of the main reasons why she fell for you. Invoke the power of your words and your voice when you’re apologizing.

• Say her name before you give a loaded statement.
• Touch her hand whenever you say her name and talk in measured tones.
• Keep your explanation simple to avoid questions that will only make her more angry.
• Don’t fly off the handle when she starts talking (shouting).

If she blows up, just tell her you’re going to wait for a better time to explain and then walk out before you lose your cool