Advice for Heartbroken Lovefools – Letting Go
When can you be called a Heartbroken Lovefool? Find out if you’ve been a fool for love by honestly answering the following questions.
When your relationship ended, did you…
- make your ex’s life a living hell by pestering him or her all the time?
- convince your friends to join your ‘campaign’ and help you get your ex back?
- drink to forget, then ended up calling your ex anyway (just because ‘you didn’t know what you were doing’)?
- drink to force your ex to feel guilty?
I know the feeling. I’ve been in one of these ruts at one point and it sucks.
The thing is, you will only realize you’ve been a ‘lovefool’ after you get over the person completely. While you’re in the throes of this so-called foolishness, your perception of the things you do to get your ex back is compromised.
What you’re really doing is prolonging the inevitable… You do these things because you’re secretly convinced that as long as you’re doing something to get your ex back, you’re keeping yourself from bursting. Yes, keeping this up is for YOUR SAKE not for the sake of your relationship.
If you really want to increase the likelihood of your ex coming back to you, you have to learn how to let go.
You have to understand why people run away from messy situations. They just want some peace and quiet; or they just want to recuperate from emotional turmoil. Making your ex feel that he or she will have to endure this drama for a long time in your company will only make the need for some peace and quiet stronger.
If you let go… if you respect your ex’s decision to break up, you’re giving yourself the breathing room you need. Moreover, you’re giving your ex the chance to see your relationship in retrospect.
Letting go bespeaks maturity and emotional stability.
If you can be brave enough to face the future without your partner, you will become more attractive to your ex. It’s not about giving up, it’s about proving to yourself that you are way above the self destructive ditch, and you value yourself more than your pride.
Here’s the secret to getting your ex back for good. Make him or her want to come back without prodding. And, this will only happen if your ex sees something that’s worth coming back to.