Flirting on Facebook, Breaking Up Online and Dealing with Gossip
Facebook flirting. Ever heard of it? It’s just one of the things that naturally happen when you, your friends, your friends’ friends and the whole world join something that’s totally addictive. Because social networking is all about interaction and building relationships, it’s just a matter of time before everyone realizes the potential of such a system for getting dates and hook-ups.
In fact, you’ve probably seen it happen.
A wall message that reads like a pick up line could really be a pick up line, but the “where to meet” conversation happens via direct message or chat. The potential for a facebook fling is huge if you know what you’re doing. Some guys and gals took this concept further and wrote a book about it.
Take a look at this book WS4W, a book for men who want to refine their flirting strategy on facebook and myspace.
How does flirting start on Facebook?
The good thing about social networks is that you instantly know who’s available (single, not in a relationship), who’s friends with who, and who went to which school. You have several conversation openers right there. Most guys and girls use the private message to start the conversation, but the braver ones use the Wall.
What if you break up on Facebook?
If people can hook up in social networks, they can also break up right there; while their many friends and contacts visit often to read more Wall reactions and sympathetic virtual hugs (“you’ll be fine, girl, there are many more guys out there”).
As one yourtango article stated, “Breaking up on Facebook reminds me of a tabloid celebrity split—everyone and her mom (sometimes literally) can read on Monday morning’s Newsfeed that you are no longer part of the IaR (In a Relationship) circuit.”
Because your relationship status on Facebook is public, your friends can speculate all they want when you suddenly change your status to single. What you probably don’t know is how they also message each other to discuss your story.
It goes without saying that you should never make a scene on Facebook (even after he replaces your name on ‘in a relationship with ___ “). When prodded to discuss the current status of your relationship, or how your break up date was, you can simply answer like any celebrity who got dumped… “We agreed to remain friends and all’s well. It just didn’t work out, but we’re both ok with our decision. I wish him only the best.”