Flirting on Facebook, Breaking Up Online and Dealing with Gossip
Facebook flirting. Ever heard of it? It’s just one of the things that naturally happen when you, your friends, your friends’ friends and the whole world join something that’s totally addictive. Because social networking is all about interaction and building relationships, it’s just a matter of time before everyone realizes the potential of such a system for getting dates and hook-ups.
In fact, you’ve probably seen it happen.
A wall message that reads like a pick up line could really be a pick up line, but the “where to meet” conversation happens via direct message or chat. The potential for a facebook fling is huge if you know what you’re doing. Some guys and gals took this concept further and wrote a book about it.
Take a look at this book WS4W, a book for men who want to refine their flirting strategy on facebook and myspace.
How does flirting start on Facebook?
The good thing about social networks is that you instantly know who’s available (single, not in a relationship), who’s friends with who, and who went to which school. You have several conversation openers right there. Most guys and girls use the private message to start the conversation, but the braver ones use the Wall.
What if you break up on Facebook?
If people can hook up in social networks, they can also break up right there; while their many friends and contacts visit often to read more Wall reactions and sympathetic virtual hugs (“you’ll be fine, girl, there are many more guys out there”).
Gossip?
As one yourtango article stated, “Breaking up on Facebook reminds me of a tabloid celebrity split—everyone and her mom (sometimes literally) can read on Monday morning’s Newsfeed that you are no longer part of the IaR (In a Relationship) circuit.”
Because your relationship status on Facebook is public, your friends can speculate all they want when you suddenly change your status to single. What you probably don’t know is how they also message each other to discuss your story.
It goes without saying that you should never make a scene on Facebook (even after he replaces your name on ‘in a relationship with ___ “). When prodded to discuss the current status of your relationship, or how your break up date was, you can simply answer like any celebrity who got dumped… “We agreed to remain friends and all’s well. It just didn’t work out, but we’re both ok with our decision. I wish him only the best.”
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Window Shopping for Women (lol) nice site
I still can’t understand how some people can flirt online… and get responded.
Maybe it’s just like the real world – some people have it, some people don’t.
Apparently, I don’t have it
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That’s what I totally hate about Facebook: you get to announce EVERYTHING. So if you flirt and all that there, everybody knows.
@Roy
Stick around and read more about my world. Who knows, you might pick up something from a naughty evil shy-girl.
@Ade
Facebook is gossip island! I’ve always wondered about people there who say “none of your business”. If you write your candid thoughts on your wall and others’ walls, your thoughts become people’s business. It’ s the cheapest way to be a celeb i guess.
I read somewhere that breaking up on Twitter now was the “in” thing to do…yikes. My brother tried dating girls on myspace for awhile…it never really did work out for him, to this day I’ve yet to let him live down the “mustache girl” – those profile pics are not always what they seem!
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@chelle
Only really cruel people can write a break up note with less than 140 characters OMG!!!
i’ve done flirting and courting at chatrooms but never at facebook hehe,i dont know,its very open to all your friends haha kinda embarrasing!
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I have not been able to meet anyone new on facebook yet, there seems to be a lot of restrictions but… Twitter on the other hand. Meeting lots of cuties there!
The unfortunate part is that a lot of people’s pictures don’t properly represent what they really look like. Age old online dating issue I suppose!
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hi woobie! long time i haven’t been by
what i don’t get is how some people seem to like that, the flirting online thing and expect to get a “real” relationship. and expect privacy. i guess the old principle in media applies to online socializing as well: you’re almost not entitled at all to privacy when you’re a public figure.
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Hi Iris! It’s ‘romantic’ somewhat.. lol. It’s funny looking at some walls with sentimental messages on them. It makes one keep coming back to find out what’s the scoop.
feeds the chismosa in all of us doesn’t it?
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I usually agree with your article content, but in this case I am sorry to say that I do not share your views.
I have a Facebook account but I don’t use it for flirting. Although I’ve seen some profiles with flirty messages on their walls…and some of my friends like it because they can always grasp some gossips by simply reading through the walls. LOL. Sometimes they would tell me, “hey don’t you know that Chris and Jenny broke up?”…and when I ask them “how’d you know?”…they would instantly reply, “I’ve read it through their Facebook feeds!” LOL