13 Responses to “Playing the Game of Love: How NOT to Fall in Love with a Fling”

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  1. Tessa says:

    This reminds me a lot of my current situation… and this is worth considering. Anyway, my situation is a much more complicated situation but this could really help. It’s hard to forget a fling… specially if you haven’t been flirting for years… and the guy just meets up with your expectations…

    And oh… Thanks btw for leaving a comment on my blog. I really appreciate it. ^___^

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  2. woobie says:

    Hi tessa. Hey you’re welcome. And thanks for visiting too.
    A fling can be a lot more overwhelming than a drawn out relationship. First of all, you didnt stay long enough together to see each other’s faults and you never got to know any of the vices that he might have. A fling is perfect, because it stayed within the boundaries of fantasy.

    Glad to be able to help. :D

  3. Chris Calo says:

    I find that most relationships seem to start as flings and then evolve from there… if you go in with the idea of “not falling in love” then you’re putting up defense shields right from the start.

    Although this can be beneficial (since most flings won’t end up in relationships), it might ultimately hinder the one that will.

    Just a thought …

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  4. woobie says:

    hi Chris!
    Hmmmnnn… that’s a nice argument.
    I think flings, when they want to “evolve” must start over.
    Step back, be friends again, dont have sex at all and see where it goes…

  5. witchypoo says:

    The trick is to keep “outside pets”. Don’t let them in your house. Especially don’t feed them.

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  6. woobie says:

    Hi witchy
    I agree! If you feed them and you try to tame them, they will still bite you when you’re not looking!

  7. anny says:

    In my mind all sexual things that begin are long term but I find that I was naive and sheltered or soething. Certain guys like to have sex w/ you at 2am & not pay attention to what you like so much things like that. Well how can you like them when you find out their true nature?
    I fell for a fling a while ago and he has charisma is intelligent quite disturbed but that never got i the way but it all became clearer to me and I stopped liking him for certain reasons. First his skills on the guiltar or his ability in bed might be amazing. Then you discover that he doesn’t like to wear protection and he likes to see other girls and in fact he had a girlfriend that he didn’t tell you about!! He was a regular at my job so I just thought he was a drunk maybe.
    I avoided this guy b/c I realized I wasn’t the only woman. Now I hooked up w/ him recently b/c I didn’t want to be alone a certain night and I was already dressed up.
    So we go out dancing and stuff . You know what he tells me afterwards that he hasn’t stopped thinking of me since the first time and gets off thinking of me all the time etc and that he has a g/f now. He is concerned about treating me badly.
    But eversince he disappointed me I stopped giving a d*mn about him. He doesn’t know but I always think about someone else when I am with him like another guy I love but can’t be with. And he’s acting like he’s falling for me and he probably believes that I am. But I am so romantic I have discovered that during sex I can’t think of guys I don’t like even if they are the one having sex w/ me at the moment. He’s rather arrogant but then most men are getting attached to them is equivalent to failure. He only calls and leaves desperate messages b/c he knows that although I think he’s a cool intelligent person I’m not attached to him and I will never love him in that wonderful way. It really makes sense.
    I can only love a guy who treats me well and acts like a fool for me.

  8. ynnah says:

    i amkind of trap at this exact situation.i am so married, but then one extraordinary time,i met this guy at the beach, enjoying the holy week fever.. he totally caught my eye and its gotten me feeling awkward since i am married and thought things are going well between me and my husband.i just found myself so excited to see him again the next night and even made love with him. or should i say, sex! i felt happy yet guilty coz i never knew i can do it in the first place… i eventually found out that when he went back home to manila, i missed him terribly. and there are so many things that remind me of him. until now, i couldnt deny the fact that i so miss him and still imagine us together…i want to forget him for i know, its geeting nowhere. and he quitted on me. damn fling!!!!!!

  9. ynnah says:

    HEY WHAT AM I SUPPOSE TO DO…I AM MARRIED, YET INLOVE WITH SOMEONE ELSE WHO IS NOT INLOVE WITH ME BECAUSE I AM MARRIED!!

  10. ruby says:

    Ynnah,

    Hello, sis. Generally, men don’t want complications in relationships. He may be in love with you for all you know, but he might be thinking about the trouble your relationship will cause if he let it go that far.

    Telling yourself what I said above is better for the emotions than the other ‘reality’: believing that he could have wanted just a fling and you were there… it didn’t even matter if you were married or not.

    Don’t force yourself to forget if you can’t yet, but don’t make the mistake of letting your emotions run over your logic. Freeze your feelings for the guy for now if you cannot completely forget about him, so that they’re not getting in the way (between you and your husband) and you can always deal with them later (if you ever meet him again).
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  11. kathy says:

    Ive been seeing a man who is 13 yrs. older than me, he says he wants the friends with benefits relationship. No commitment or me to love him at all. I made the agreement with him, had sex the next day, and ever since then he has been totally different, in a good way. Told me to leave some things at his house, toothbrush, etc. Now teasing me about putting his clothes in my closet. I am so confused I could bust, if there’s anyone out there who could give me some advice I will sure take it.
    Kathy

  12. woobie says:

    Hey Kathy,
    Some men are less inhibited, boyish, playful and more loving when they know that a girl won’t put them inside a cage. This means he feels that he’s showing you what he’s really like and he’s not just doing the romantic things he does because he HAS to.

    I’ve been commitment-phobic for so long, and this ‘open’ type relationship is just one way for people like me to ‘commit’ in the unorthodox sense.

  13. Mystery says:

    well this guy just split with me and i want him back but dnt know how to i think i am in love any help?

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