Befriending Your Ex: Connecting With the One that Got Away

I believe that one should never waste resources, and one should always keep great friends. Sadly, some of my worst dating mistakes included falling in love with a friend, or at the very least, letting hormones and sexual tension take over and complicate a great friendship.

Fortunately, there’s this thing I call the “back to friendship” process.

Here’s the step by step:

• After breaking up, do not delete his number like you said you would. (variation: if you don’t want to see his number on your phone, write it on a piece of paper with his name and stash it inside an old handbag)
• Give it a year. Start counting when he stops calling (or you stop calling)
• Call or send a message and ask him how he is doing
• If he doesn’t want to talk, don’t force the issue. (well, at least you tried,right?)
• Do not meet up with your ex without getting a facial, a proper hairstyle and a sassy outfit first
• Do not consume alcohol on your platonic date, and meet up in a public place.

Yep, platonic friendship is possible between ex lovers.

The best part of it is that he knows a lot about you and he is in the best position to give constructive, tough love advice about your love troubles. If all is well (translation: he’s over you and vice versa), you can start communicating again, talking about your current love situations and even talking about your failed relationship. Come to think of it, you can even start a business (or a blog… heh) together!

Life is just too short to forget about people who we really connected with. Even if it’s just friendship, at least you keep those who are worth keeping.

Thoughts About Ex’s

1. The best thing about ex’s is that they cannot hurt you anymore. Soon, the bad memories die and the good remain…
2. They made you happy at one point and even more than that, they made you feel special…
3. When I think about ‘the one that got away’, I cannot help but wonder what he’s up to….
4. Thinking about your ex does not mean you’re dissatisfied with your current relationship, it simply means you are reminiscing about a past bittersweet experience that taught you a valuable lesson about loving someone…

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A message from an ex:

“Do you talk about me on your blog?”
“If you subscribe, maybe I will.”

You Are A Friendly Ex

You and your ex are just friends – great friends really. (At least that’s what you keep telling yourself!) While civility is a good thing, make sure you’re not secretly wanting more…