Nice Girls Talk Dirty: How to Naughty Talk Advice for the Shy
Glancing at a magazine rack in a grocery told me just how far the lifestyle mags have come in terms of coping with the evolving views on male and female sexualilty. Fashion headlines have been replaced by sizzling sex tips. Erotica and dirty-secret, confession-type stories are no longer limited to the adult mags. You have to be really blind or clueless not to notice the growing number of decent, well-bred ladies who are talking about having sex with their boyfriends.
However, it is equally undeniable that nice girls, particularly the genuinely shy women who still have a lot of inhibitions during this era of sexual permissiveness, still feel uncomfortable with some aspects of the love making act, and one of these is the Act of Talking Dirty. Here are some striking details of a chat I had with a girl who waged war on her boyfriend for asking her to talk dirty in bed during a steamy love making session.
- “I told him that I’m not like the girls on the videos he watches. He knows I do not feel comfortable even swearing in public, why would he ask for something like that? He wants to experiment, and I so want to try it too, but i just can’t stomach profanity. Tell me, am I a bad girlfriend?”
No, dearie, you are not a bad girlfriend. In fact, you don’t have to force yourself to say the F-word, the S-word or the B-word while you’re making love to be able to try new things that will obviously float his love boat. You just have to learn how to say the things he wants to hear in a way that won’t demean your sense of propriety.
If you already have the copy of The Ultimate Guide to Talking Dirty, page 10 discusses some hints on “dirty talking without really getting your mouth soiled by dirty words… perfect for nice girls, if you ask me.
It’s pretty difficult to know how exactly a man thinks, the things that turn him on and the exact trigger that will make him commit. But with practice and persistence, any girl can learn how to make a guy fall deeply in love with her.
How to Naughty Talk in Two Simple Steps
1. Create a Nickname for “His” and “Yours” Like “Can you make ‘Miss Pussy’ happy tonight?” and “Mr Pee Wee Herman seems lonely, he really should play with the Heart-Shaped Box now…” (yes, you can LOL!)
Dirty Talking Word Play!
You might have noticed how my own self-given moniker “woobie witch” takes on a completely different meaning just by changing the first letters of the words with another letter. You can do the same. Your nickname for his member could be your special code and can be said whenever you feel like it, without feeling embarrassed at saying something completely naughty. Make it unique and cute, and make sure it reflects “his” true character.
If you can’t think of anything, check out blogthings’ Male Parts and Girl Parts name generators for ideas.
2. Find a Better Action Verb to Replace the F-Word
Use metpahors, analogies… get your creative juices flowing and tap into your budding erotica potential. The F word is so over-used (and misused) in conversation anyway. Browsing through a synonyms database reveals words like ‘pound’, ‘thrust’, ‘drive’, ‘stuff’ and ‘cram’. Even the phrase “rock my world” does wonders when said in a nice, sexy way.
Try it! Believe in your capability to titillate and make him use his imagination. Make him fall for you using your words. What have you got to lose? The worst case scenario is that he will lose it completely and burst out laughing with you in pleasant surprise and delight. Then, you will have to start over…
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