The Art of the Swoon: When the Heart Says “I Believe You”

Swoon
v. – 1. To faint; 2. To be overwhelmed by ecstatic joy.
n – 1. A fainting spell; 2. A state of ecstasy or rapture.

The ability to make a person swoon for you is the gist of all the tips you have ever heard from others, including me. For a moment, something you said or did will make that person very, very happy. Her heart beats faster, her pupils dilate… for a second or two, you got her where you want her to be, entangled in a web that you set up for months or years.

Swoon is what happens when girls get proposed to and they can say nothing but “yes”; that moment you’ve been waiting for, the climactic finish of your lovey dovey efforts. This instance, when it happens, is a celebration of your ability to make a person believe you 110%.

This the technique that all playgirls and playboys strive to perfect. This is….

How do you get them worked up to the point that they swoon when you deliver that one line that will seal the deal for you? I’m not talking about a seduction per se. You don’t just want to sleep with them, your goal must be for long term affection of this person for you, not (just) lust.

1. Sincerity is NOT overrated.

Someone who has heard it all and seen it all will scoff at insincerity. Making a person fall in love is a commitment that you take; a pact you make with yourself. You make an effort to not quit waiting for her to trust you, even if the odds are against you. When you pour your emotions and mental energy into your proposal, she will drink it up like mint julep on a hot summer day.

2. The Risk Reversal Option

You need time to gain a girl’s trust. You have to build your credibility, be her boyfriend, and this includes giving her a way out if she thinks that she’s making the mistake of dating you. With that option to run open, she WILL feel more comfortable to stick around and find out what you’re all about. One line that I remember from a former suitor is this “You like me enough to have coffee with me. Why don’t we give a relationship a try. If it doesn’t work out, I promise not to stalk you.” While we didn’t end up together, I think of him fondly until now as the wonderful guy who made me feel all warm inside just by looking at me.

3. Patience is a Virtue

Using the principlea written in ‘The Little Prince‘, you don’t just go into her life with guns ablaze. You tame her, introduce your kind of loving initially, and then fade patiently in her world… reappearing every once in a while to say “hey, I’m just here if you need me”. Then, out of nowhere, be out of sight for a time, just long enough to make her wonder where you have gone. Make her miss you, use her longing for your constant but undemanding company to enhance your market value. The online counterpart of this is just waiting for her to see that your IM icon is online…. being too eager is more detrimental than helpful.

4. Go for the Kill

When the time is ripe… she knows you’re for real and you know she’s into you… you pop the question. You let go of the doubts and just put yourself out there. So many men never reach this point because of fear of rejection… but bear in mind that so many girls are left in the dust waiting for the question to come. Will she go into a relationship with you? Maybe, maybe not. But knowing how she feels is better than never trying …

There’s always the possibility that you did everything right, and you make her swoon. She might even say to you that old cliche that made every single Jerry Maguire fan swoon….

“You had me at hello.”