Single Gender Schools and Love Relationships

I’m running the risk of being called out for stereotypical thinking, but I have to get this post out of my system.

You see, if you don’t get something out of your system, it eats you up. You end up repressed and raring to do rebellious things; things that will turn you into a libidinous blogger, so that all you can talk about are the things that need to get out of your system… One day, you will suddenly snap and set up a blog, and talk about stuff that make you so, so hot… *screams*

But I digress.

The Girls from Exclusive High Schools

I graduated from an all-girl Catholic high school (middle school to our foreign friends, from 12 to 16 years old) and jumped right into the arms of my co-ed alma mater. All my previous exposure to guys did not prepare me for the reality of having to deal with them on a daily basis, in a school setting and in the dating scene. Suddenly, the whole classroom was filled with antics of the opposite sex, and initially, I was taken aback.

I am not saying that girls from exclusive high schools don’t meet guys, we do. We attend promenades and getting-to-know-you parties with guys from other exclusive schools; and every day, we find several hundred guys lined up in front of our high school at dismissal time, either waiting for their girlfriends or just checking out the fragrant herd of female species parading magnificently out of the school gate.

Female Bonding

Some girls could not stand the ‘pressure’ of not interacting with the opposite sex, but most of us who stayed inside the single gender school loved the feeling of being with other girls. It’s like a big slumber party where girls can discuss boys and girl stuff with their friends. The only trouble was, not many have had experiences dealing with the opposite sex, and almost all were just making up theories of how to run relationships and connect with guys. In fact, if one of us was rumored to have already kissed a guy, we would gather around her and would ask so many pointed questions (Was it a wet kiss? How did it feel? What does saliva taste like?).

Lesbianism and Bisexuality

There are three things that could happen when you spend 4 or so years in an exclusive school during the time when hormones just started going berserk and the notions of sexuality were just forming:

1. You appreciate the beauty of women so much that you fall in love with them.
2. You understand the concept of lesbianism and bisexuality way better than a coed-schooled person who did not go through the same experiences, and you do not find it weird that women can fall in love with other women; or that men can fall in love with other men. Or,
3. You become completely homophobic.

Womanhood Overdrive

While I would recommend that there should be a boot-camp for new single gender school graduates prior to entering college, I take pride in being one. Girls from single gender schools are more assertive than those from coed schools, particularly in relationships. Imagine listening to lectures pointing to women empowerment and women’s roles in society for four years; encouraging each other during recess to never take shit from men; and celebrating the goddess in every woman on a daily basis. Some of our country’s most radical Feminists and women politicians are from exclusive catholic girls’ schools, and that is telling of the quality of women these schools produce.