Sensual Non-Verbal: Give Her an Erotic Massage

Touch… I cannot even begin to describe the role that this action word played in my past and present love life. Touching, whether figuratively or literally, makes a person take notice of you. How do we utilize the power of touch in our daily intimate lives? One way is through massage. This is the best non-verbal way of expressing your feelings for another person because the gratification factor goes one way; the person being massaged feels the benefits, while the other is only eager to serve.

Ordinary Day Massages – For when you have no time to set up a home spa.

1. While she’s doing chores – Give her a back rub while she’s cooking or washing dishes. If she’s ticklish, though, it’s probably not a good idea to surprise her with a surprise back rub. The pressure points should be the nape and the spot exactly between the shoulder blades. One minute minimum, three minutes maximum time for giving this massage.

2. When he comes home from work or from the gym – A foot massage is out of the question, but a hand massage will do. Sit him on the couch and tell him to relax. Press the center of the palm then work your way to the fingers with steady pressure. You can work the arm and the shoulders if he’s still receptive.

When You’ve Got Time To Spare

1. A Full Body Massage with Aromatherapy for him

Fragrant baths and aromatic oils are always associated with girls. Make him feel the pleasure of these things by asking him to soak for a while in scented water. Light a scented candle, have him lie face down on the bed and work his back kinks with essential oils.

Knead, Don’t Rub. Men have big knotted muscles that won’t budge. To prevent strain and so that you won’t get tired for other things, the best way to massage a guy’s tense back involves using your weight and gravity. Position your hands on strategic points on his back (shoulder blades, the spot at the exact center of the back or anywhere else that feels tense) then press down using your weight, like doing push ups. Repeated pressure on knotted muscles loosens them up to allow more gentle rubbing later.

2. A sensual pampering for her

Bring home a bouquet of roses, but don’t let her put them in a vase. Instead, remove the petals one by one while she takes a shower. Pour perfumed oil and sprinkle the petals on her back. While you use your whole hand to knead her tense muscles, rub the petals on her skin with your thumb. This lets her feel the softness of the petals and smell the fragrance released from them while you massage her back.

Important Reminder:

Do not think about sex. Don’t resent the other person if he or she falls asleep while you’re giving the massage and fails to ‘reciprocate’. Massage is a one-way thing that is given to make the other person feel good. While she might not be able to return the favor at that time, for sure she will remember that you gave that selfless, non-verbal gift of relaxation and return the favor next time.