What is Your Ideal?
Feel free to reflect on this question, as I have never really found an exact answer for it myself.
:lv:
Disillusioned. Disappointed. Frustrated. F*cked. are just some of the words people use to describe their relationships when the magic has waned and they see the flaws of their partners in broad daylight. People who say that they don’t look at the physical but rather the personality have the notion right at first, until they realize that the ‘personality’ that attracted them in the first place isn’t exactly what they expected it to be in the long run.
Isn’t it weird how we pick partners that somehow reflect what we hope to see in ourselves? Gushing over how ambitious he is, fawning over her sensitivity to your moods, marveling at how she is so like your mom in so many ways … we depend on our partners to supply that element that we need to fill the void in our own personalities.
Someone who is like me yet a lot better at certain things… Or, someone who is my exact opposite but will still understand the way my mind works.
In this sense, is choosing who to share our life with actually more about us than the other person?
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i don’t know about the question but i read somewhere that the reason why people would like to have their “someone” is because we would like that someone to witness our life. it doesn’t really matter if both partners are alike in a lot of ways or completely opposite, it’s a matter of sharing and caring on what you both consider as important things in your lives. i don’t actually refer to the partnership/relationship as “dependency”, for me it’s more of “complementary”.
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so, i gather that your “ideal” is someone who will commit to stay with you and share your experiences… nice!
:lv:
I agree – it’s both. Complementary. Someone somewhere put it like this:
“I love you not because of who you are, but because of who I am when I am with you…”
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aawww, you made my heart twist a bit with that last quote.
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