Vixens Are People Too
You remember I told you about the wedding I attended and my Matron of Honor speech? Here’s a new development. My best friend is going to have a baby! I’m so happy for her!
We have been together since we were freshies in college. We studied together, dreamt of being in love together, went boy watching together, and did a lot of activities together, wholesome or otherwise.
But that’s ALL in the past!
What’s important now is we both have families and we’re so content. Now on to scolding kids and telling them the following BS we were told by well-meaning but pesky adults while we were growing up:
- Sex is dirty and incredibly immoral, you will burn in hell if you do this before marriage! (hidden meaning: you must marry the guy you have sex with to avoid going to to hell)
- Never ever let anyone touch your hand (you’ll get pregnant!)
- A kiss could definitely get you pregnant!
- People who are out on the streets too late will turn to stone by midnight (and get pregnant!).
- Love is never hurtful.
Not the exact words, but you get it? Warnings and misleading prohibitions designed to inhibit budding vixens from being the go-getters, calculatingly clever career women, shrewd streetsmart girlfriends, and non-doormats that they could be. These don’t work at all. Nah-ah!
Growing adults will soon discover that:
- Relationships are painful if built solely on daydreams and unrealistic expectations.
- Sex isn’t dirty, and doing it before marriage won’t bring you the wrath of God. BUT it needs to be done by responsible adults who have the means to provide for the consequence (pregnancy).
- Love is something we reserve for people who respect us back.
- Having an opinion about everything and being liberal minded will shock conservative parents initially, then have them bursting with inexplainable PRIDE later on (albeit secretly).
We have a lifetime to discuss these things, and a few years of penance (in the hope that karma doesn’t bite our asses off!) before our kids get old enough to have their own say on things. For now though, it’s ‘how-to-make-sure-the-nappies-don’t-get-soaked’ advice.
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“sex is dirty and immoral” -this is the number one great lesson in life that i carried with me over more than 20 years. then when some sense of maturity finally kicked me in the ass, i began to question why. why is sex dirty and immoral? i figured maybe it’s because teenage and unwanted pregnancy are sprouting everywhere that it became a fad at one point. since we are big on our catholic beliefs, the elders thought of making this one up to ensure that girls and boys will grow up clean and innocent. then, the generation of internet and speed dating came. that’s when those nice girls and boys found out that sex is not dirty nor immoral at all. ergo, there’s more unwanted pregnancy now.
where am i going with this? ..well i just want to say that let’s just make all girls and boys be responsible adults and for goodness sakes, can someone please hand them condoms?
by the way, please extend my congratulations to your bestfriend.
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@dyosa
handing out condoms to college kids will have the conservatives flogging everyone all over again! haha. I asked my BF once to leave my BCP at my dorm and I immediately got sent to the matron… I patiently explained the following…
Me: “madam, these pills are not for abortion, they are here so that i won’t NEED an abortion”
Her: “but having them means you’re having SEX!!!”
Me: “well yes, ma’am,”
Shocking huh? XD
Ha. We all got that crap as kids. Such lies keep us innocent until we learn the truth.
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some even got absolutely brainwashed by that BS.
woobie, LOL. i can already imagine the face of your dorm matron. Que Horror! well, hopefully she didn’t faint. hehe.
dyosa’s last blog post..I SAW THE SIGN AND I OPENED UP MY EYES…I SAW THE SIGN.
Now I’m positive about LOVE and SEX..
Thank you for sharing.
only great love can hurt me!*sobbing
@dyosa
Yes definitely shocked! She called my parents ASAP and explained to them what happened. My folks said they’ll talk to me, so the matron thought im so in trouble.
LOL.
@MoonLAE
Great love comes to great people.