My Bestfriend’s Wedding

I was asked to give the first speech on my bestfriend’s wedding tomorrow. I don’t know if I will cry or just sound like I’m giving an overly dramatic (*cough* scripted) presentation.

Not being a big fan of marriage (yep, I am not married but have a kid… and perhaps I’ll burn in hell for it like the Catholic doctrines say, but that’s another story), I feel like I’m watching my friend take a bungee jump or enter a house with no back door. I feel like shouting “noooooooo….!!!!” with arms stretched out towards her, except that the guy she is marrying is the most decent, most loveable and most grounded guy she ever went out with, so I feel reassured that she’s in good hands.

Don’t get me wrong, I am very happy for her. I am proud that she took the leap of faith and is now entering an institution that is scarier for me than… well, than nothing. It is the scariest thing. (Please read When A Playgirl Retires…)

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And here’s the speech…

First, I will describe how I know Carol. I became her bestfriend when we met in College, in the University of the Philippines. Despite the obvious differences in our personalities, we clicked and maintained a strong friendship up to this day. Considering our sister-like closeness and our shared experiences of being financially independent Alpha females, I know I am in the best position to say that her love for Kirt is the most wonderful thing a man could ever wish for.

Kirt and Carol met in 2002 at a party and they clicked so well that people around them immediately noticed the chemistry. However, they remained “friends only” for a long time, and went out on friendly dates occasionally. In 2005, Carol contacted me and asked me to have dinner with her and a guy friend. I know from experience that when she asks this of me, she wants me to check the guy out, learn a lot about the guy (by asking loaded questions) and just get a feel of what the guy is like.

I was very surprised to note that Kirt is very different from the other guys she introduced to me. There was something about him that told me that “this guy will never hurt Carol”. He was funny in a way that is a bit corny, but I immediately knew that he’s a very kind, understanding and compassionate person. There was no doubt in my mind that Kirt is someone who could be trusted, and that he is the type of guy who will take care of Carol, and who is grounded enough to not let her have her way all the time. I knew that he is the “one” for her, and I was ecstatic that finally, my headstrong best friend has found her match.

He complements her by being the tempering factor to her passionate nature. And Carol, in turn, inspires him with her infectious positivity and carefree attitude. They will have children who have strong faith in God, because they both have the Lord at the center of their lives. I have no doubt that their marriage will succeed and will remain strong.

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