In moments of rejection and dejection, this is the best thing to do.

Self loving isn’t a bad thing if it is done sparsely but meaningfully.Some people resort to retail therapy. I tried that once and I hated it. Spending so much on yourself and feeling great for a while, then going back home to feel just as empty as before. It’s not my thing.

I’ve hugged myself a lot of times in the past, just as I’m hugging myself now. Instead of craving for someone else’s comfort, why not start with yourself? You’re the only one who knows what you’re really feeling anyway. Play the ‘friendly advice’ game alone and try to work it out, before you seek other people’s sympathy.

Friends have their own problems too, and while all the greeting cards and stuffed animals in the world promote the “I will always be here for you” statement, this may not always be true. Listening to you while you’re ranting is a nice gesture, but expecting people to solve your problems for you is foolish. Friends can only supply a few drops of comfort to your empty glass, so you have to fill it halfway first on your own before others can pitch in.

Tell yourself that everything’s gonna be fine, and that the pain will go away soon. Hug tightly at times when the hurt becomes unbearable.

People see that you’re making an effort to pick up the pieces of your broken dreams, and they will volunteer to help. Just as long as you lead the campaign to make you feel well again. A leader is the loneliest person in any group, because he has to make the decisions alone in his mind, regardless of a consensus. This time, you are the head of a very important project: rebuilding your shattered hopes. When the captain starts the engines again, the crew will man the oars, and you will be well on your way to a brighter new beginning.
Holding a half-filled glass in your hands, you’re now ready to talk to people. Tell them how the glass was so empty before you poured tiny drops of self-love into it. Then you ask them “can you help me fill this up to the brim?” Someday, someone will come along and pour in an ocean of love that your glass of hope will be overflowing.

But for now, hug yourself.

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